Wednesday, July 26, 2006

excess of baggage..

I am not talking about luggage, but referring to personal emotional baggage that people carry around. I was just thinking a few days back about relations and friends and all things attached with them, so this idea came to my mind.

What is friendship? Hmm! Well asking such a question after 22 years of being with friends is indeed silly. But really what is it. I used to position Friendship above all the relations defined by our society. Thats the reason why I treat even my relatives as friends. For e.g. My sister and my parents are very good friends of mine. We all know that friendship doesnt have boundaries of age, gender etc so we can very well generalize all relation in terms of friendship.

Taking my life 5 years back when I had joined IIIT. I (like all of us) made lots of new friends (yeah same month, july 2001) with very varied backgrounds. All of them were from different parts of country. Completing the graduation took 4 years so we needed friends away from home to share our feelings with and have fun with. We used to have fights and we used to make up after few days laughing over it and getting rid of any grudges.

When we were in institute we had only a fixed number of people around us, and all those were divided into groups. So any particular group was tightly coupled and having 2 people in one group not talking to each other was not very much possible. Even if those 2 didnt feel uncomfortable, others would, and so the group will force them to talk and make up. I still remember lots of incidents like that. But life is different now.

We are not as close now as we were then. Yes! we are still good friends, we still share everything, we still trust each other and can count on them but there is a difference. Now we go to office, go to parties, meet new interesting people and make new friends every now and then. As the number of people we know (read new friends) increase , the time we spend with any of them decreases. Now we dont roam around , chat as much in fixed groups as we did in our college (graduation). I dont remember when was the last time when 4-5 of us had a big long discussion about anything over a coffee or in someone's room . Now we just chat when we go out for a movie, shopping etc. And we dont discuss anything other than just the things at hand like what movie to go, what to buy.

So to sum things up I would say that the spark in our friendship has gone away. I am probably wrong but thats what I feel as of now. I was always trying to shrug that feeling off but now I cant do it any more.

But isnt that better. If I am not able to stay with an old friend because of some ego clashes or small fights, I have so many other people to spend time with and be friends with. So am I wrong if I just leave that friend and continue with new ones? We already dont have enough time in today's world for lots of things, so is it worth to keep clinging to relations that do not work ? Probably thats the reason why there are so many break-ups, divorces all around because people just want to spend the time they find for themselves enjoying rather than making up the broken relations.

I was having a discussion about this issue with a close friend and I was telling him that its better nowadays to roam around with any body , chat with anyone who is around you rather than always calling your old pals who would be mostly busy. Also we wont have to waste time over trivial issues from past. Even our atmostphere supports this behaviour. We keep changing companies, places etc, so staying with those few old friends forever is not possible. So we should get used to finding new people and live in the moment.

Basically, we should not keep a lot of personal baggage...Find new people make new friends and part ways happily with those you can not stay any longer with :) Afterall we came to the universe alone and have to leave alone too..

Wednesday, July 5, 2006

bike trip to bhuvangiri fort..

A wonderful sunday, 4 funloving friends, cloudy sky, a straight and low traffic road and a nice ride of 60kms to bhongir. Went to bhuvangiri fort last sunday, 4 of us including me, Nitin, Manoj and Gaurav. Though there were various roadblocks and delays but we finally made it. Had come to know about the place through a colleague (Thanks Ankur) so thought of exploring the place. Who cared of the fort, it was the ride that we were looking forward to.

We went on my Avenger and Nitin's Karizma, the drive was fantastic. Started at 4:00 from Hyderabad Central where we Packed Samosas/kachoris and lots of drinking water for creating a picnic atmosphere :). While on our way we came across a huge lake and s had to meet.o we diverted from the main road and took the bikes just metres away from the lake. It was a bit sunny but the Gods of wind were all on our side. On the way there is a long and clean road on which we raced our bikes. I took my Avenger at 100kmph for the first time :) and it was as stable as at 60. Avenger Rocks.

Reached bhuvangiri around 5:15 and the fort was very much visible. Sitting tall on a giant plateau, it looked pretty cool. We parked the bikes and started our way up. After various short breaks in which we discussed how the kings and queens lived in these forts and how this fort had been a tourist spot had it been in main hyderabad we reached close to top of fort. We had taken a wrong way up and so the only way to the top of the fort/plateaue was trekking on rocks. Nitin and Manoj stayed back and Gaurav and I proceeded. It was almost 45 degree slope and we were petrified when we looked down. The best way to survive was to go on and on and so we did. After reaching the top we were happy that we were alive :) . There was a haunted house on the hill which was abandoned. We entered and found all broken walls and windows. Took some photos imagining that a ghost will come in the background but nothing like that happened :( .

The most amazing part was the two large pools of water built inside the rocky plateau itself. We called Manoj and Nitin also as we had found another way to go down. We were wating on the cannon that was lying at the top of a small room like structure. After they came we ate samosas and kachoris ;) . The scene around was beautiful. The whole plateaue was surrounded by green fields and palm trees on one side and small houses on other. We could clearly see the road which we had come from. After spending some time there we started coming down rolling and falling on the rocks ;) .

Reached the bottom pretty quickly and started our way back. Again the ride was great except that it was pitch dark at some places and we could not drive very fast. We stopped at a dhaba to eat some pakoras as it was drizzling a bit but got only tea in the dhaba. There was a big traffic jam because of some road construction work but the drive was pretty smooth. After coming back everyone's back was paining :) but thanks to my comfortable Avenger, Gaurav and I were saved from the pain.

Reached home and slept like dogs, Nitin had to take the next day off due to serious back pain. It was our first long ride on bikes, plan to have some more of such kind :D.